Ask and Ye Shall Receive

If you bought it, and it's in the house that you pay for, and is being used by a child that you birthed then, by default that means you don't have to ask your child or anyone in your home for permission to do anything. See how that works? Like, can you imagine asking your child if you can enter their room? The room you furnished? In the home you go to work everyday to pay for?

EggggggXactly

Well, something similar to that happened to me yesterday. I picked up Lolo from school and on our way home we ran into my mom and she bought Lolo a bag of Animal Crackers. Thanks Mom! :)

We get home and Lo begs me to open the bag. I open it, after all, I wanted something sweet to snack on as well. So she sits on the kitchen floor eating the animal crackers and I sit beside her, reach in the bag and pop one in my mouth. I mean, I thought we were going to chill on the floor, gossip and snack on some free crackers.   

Suddenly! Everything stops! She looks at me with the blankest stare and less than 2 seconds later she is hollering, kicking and screaming on the kitchen floor.

She is literally so upset that I even had the audacity, to place my hand in a bag of crackers, that were sitting in a kitchen, that I pay to live in. Ok, so let me break this down some more for you, my hand that I used to cling on to the rails of the hospital bed, as I was in labor with her. The hand, I use to go to work everyday so that she can live a good life. The hand, I use to wipe her stinky poopy diapers. The hand I use to pay the cashier for the clothes she has on her back. Yessss.... that HAND!

I'm not going to lie; at first I was like.....

Then the tears got louder and more belligerent......

So finally I blurt out "Sorry Lolo". "I'm sorry. Mama is sorry"! This child looks at me like...

Lolo waiting for a more sincere apology

But because my daughter throws consistent SHADE on a daily basis, she was not giving in this easily. She got up off the kitchen floor and walked away. Oh, let me remind you, that I'm still sitting on the kitchen floor. So, she basically got up, walked away and left me sitting there like a remorseful dummy. In my own home.

I get up off the floor, and find her in my bedroom sitting on the bed eating her animal crackers "in peace". 

I sit next to her and say "Lolo can I have one please?" 

My baby goes in the bag, reaches in and gets not one but two crackers and places it in my mouth! I thought to myself, 'geeesh that was easy'. All I needed to do was ask and I could have avoided the total eclipse shade that happened almost 10 minutes ago. "Hmmm" I thought, perhaps, there are boundaries that I should adhere to. Maybe I should've respected her space. Maybe I should've respected her belongings. Maybe I should lead by example and ask before I take something that's not mine.

                                                        Then I pondered on those thoughts....

Yeahhhhhh RIGHT! That's So Jaded! This is my HOUSE

Lesson Unlearned!

That's So Jaded,

Jae